So often I have had discussions with people who are constantly complaining about their upbringing or complaining about someone who had a hard upbringing and I think to myself how very sad it is. I know an almost 60 year old that constantly reflect on things from 45 + years prior and just can't shake it, despite therapy!!! If they (you) are a parent yourself you will know how very difficult that job is and you yourself have tried your best - you never said you were perfect right? - so why not extend that very same reasoning to your parents? They never claimed to be perfect, they too (I am sure) tried their best at raising you. You don't fully know their story, you don't know their why or why not's. Cut them some slack whether you believe they deserve it or not.
Letting go of toxic people in your life (even family) may be necessary, but once you have done that MOVE on!!! Stop reliving things that hurt you - it is 1) Unhealthy and keeps you stuck and 2) Prevents you from enjoying your present and future.
We choose the thoughts we allow into our head - but like working out a muscle in the gym we too can workout a new way to think and process our feelings. Start by forgiving your parents, then change your unhealthy repetitive thoughts and replace them with happier memories and positive thoughts - YES it will take time AND effort on your part but eventually you will start to see some changes - life it too short to be stuck in the past.
Keep this blog as a reminder to keep moving forward - also keep it for your own kids as they may need it too!! Wink Wink.......
Forgive and move on.....your future happiness depends on it.
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