Why do we lie to our children?

Don't bite my head off without hearing me out!!!

 

First of all I love the holidays every one of them and I love some of the traditions we have in our family. But one year my husband and I just looked at each other and said "What the heck are we doin." Not only was Christmas getting bigger each year so was the Christmas "bill". This particular year we have no extra money to spare on gifts, but we had to keep up with the lie for fear of damaging our kids emotionally.

 

 

Christmas had become about buying gifts (we could not afford) and lying and it just started to feel WRONG to us.

 

 

"Mommy how it is possible that Santa gets to all the children in one night." One of our kids asked us this particular year and without skipping a beat we told them it was magic and that they had to believe.  Ouch!!! Yet the next day one of my kids lied to me and they got sent to the timeout chair.

 

"Mommy there is a monster under my bed." No sweetie there isn't monsters aren't real." Double ouch.

 

Something is just NOT right with this.

 

Why can't we have the sense of wonder and awh without the lying?  Why do we feel like 1 present under the tree isn't good enough - we need MORE for it to feel right.

 

Christmas is a time to reflect on our lives, spending time with loved one and the birth of Jesus Christ.  Instead it has become about consumerism and out right lies. & it is becoming more so every year that people are now saying Happy Holidays for fear of possibly insulting someone who is not Christian and not saying Merry Christmas...... so sad. But the Holiday is Christmas, that is it's actual name.

 

We have since apologized to our children for lying to them over the years with regards to Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairly and the like.

 

There has got to be another way.........

 

What are your thoughts? 

 

 a lie is a lie!!!